These attributes, actions and thoughts might inspire loyalty.
People can change. So can the attributes, actions and thoughts I love. Love is labile.
Loyalty is greatly dictated by force of habit. It resists change, and ends up seeming like it is towards people.
This dichotomy injects restlessness and discomfort into life.
The solution, though not perfect, lies in the fact that: to love is not an obligation; loyalty is an obligation, but only as long as I assure of my loyalty.
Obligation ceases when the assurance is withdrawn.
But this is all theory; practice is quite different. ;) Because this withdrawal requires audacity that I might not always possess.
So, each time I suffer on account of this dichotomy, the real reason is my cowardice.
Ah! This fact is comforting and easier to live with. :)